Yeah ... but

This week's blog was inspired by a healthy dose of 'yeah ... but'!  It came about after Mr Bob had watched his beloved Coventry City* win 1-0.  He was scrolling through the supporters Facebook page and checking out the comments after the match.  Apparently (I can't comment, I was out running) they played really well but so-called fans were moaning that they were useless, should have won 4-0 etc etc.  Erm, the last time I checked, you don't score any extra points for more goals, a win is a win and gets you the standard 3 points.

This then started a conversation about how on earth some people get through life with that kind of attitude.  Are they ever happy with anything in life or do all their sentences start with 'yeah ... but'.  As Mr Bob succinctly put it, they wouldn't even be happy if someone gave them a gold pig as they'd be saying 'yeah ... but it's a bit heavy, do I have to carry it all the way home'.

This then got me thinking about how many times we never really stop to enjoy the present moment when something good is happening and I'm absolutely guilty of it myself.  There's been many occasions after running a race when I've said 'yeah ... but I should have run faster', instead of simply enjoying the moment and saying 'yeah ... that was the best I could have run today and I'm pleased'.

Of course, there'll be times when your team played awful, gets stuffed 3-0 and deserve to be moaned about or when you run slower than a tortoise in a race because you've had a few cheeky vimtos the night before - that's never going to end well!

But what about those times when things have gone well and we're still moaning, how do we keep it real and enjoy those moments instead of good never being quite good enough.  Simple, like everything else in life, you have to practise at being 'present in the moment'.  For example, when I'm running a race and feeling good, I focus on the metronomic rhythm of the sound of my feet and, it's difficult to describe, but I try and put myself in an almost meditative state of mind.  When things are going well, fully immerse yourself in the situation, you want to enjoy the moment, not miss it and then end up saying 'yeah ... but'.

Enjoying the moment means not thinking too much about the outcome or future.  How many times has your mind wandered to thinking about work on a Sunday evening?  You can prevent this by planning ahead - yes, enjoying the present moment and planning ahead do actually go hand in hand.  For example, finishing off your work week by planning your tasks for the following week will help free up your mind for the weekend.  You know what you've got to do on Monday so put it to one side and enjoy your Sunday evening.

Don't be a Vicky Pollard ... when the good times are good ... ENJOY THEM!!

*It may come as a shock to some of you that Mr Bob is not proper Yorkshire but don't worry, he's been oop north for quite a while and is now well versed with things such as 'how much' and calling everyone 'love' regardless of age, race or gender.  We're now working on him elongating his vowels as much as possible but he's having none of it and gets his kicks taking the mickey out of me instead!

#2021

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